I mean, A decides to take advantage of B's obvious like for A to hold B in reserve while she hopes to guaranty her "real" date. That's typical. OK for A to string B along, not OK for B to string anyone else along.

B knew he was Bbackup for A, he agreed with that, she asked him to be backup and he said yes
B didnt string anyone along he dropped someone there is a difference

And I dont want to talk about matric farewell anymore, this one only causes trouble and I'm gonna kill someone the next time I see her

hehe i knew z would have something to say on this matter. I'm not very good with questions like that so don't ask for my opinion

Yes there is a difference but it is a small and merely technical one. Either way B treated C along the same line of logic as A treated B. In other words: "It's gonna be you unless something better comes along."

In A's case, it was "Something better came along but just in case it falls through it's you."

In B's case it was "Ooops. Sorry C, something better, i.e. D, came along."

B was at all fault in not telling C not D that he was unavailable if he was a backup date. Therefore he is at fault for excepting ANY dates. And as he agreed tothe condition with A, His honor is very much in question. A, should have made sure of her real date as to not need a back-up.

Edit - This is why I loved Algebra

Edited by - Finalday on 7/25/2004 1:04:29 PM

A's current date aint better than B
OK I give up you guys clearly dont understand the idea behind backup date


Edited by - sycho_warrior on 7/25/2004 1:07:04 PM

On the contrary, it is all a matter of in whose shoes you are standing. A's or B's. If A, of course it is as you describe and perfectly harmless. If B, however, you end up being second fiddle. No ifs ands or buts about that.

We totally understand the backup date, but you have to understand that we are no longer teenagers, and see things totally differently.

The only thing that makes this different is that the lad doesn't go to your school - so him being the "backup" date means that he either gets a night out or not.

I hope I get the name right, A Sadie Hawkins Dance, you ask a stranger sometimes, then I might understand the need for a back up, however, if one is asking a boyfriend, or very close male, there would be absolutly no need for a back up.

Based on what you originally asked, i think the answers are here in this thread. No offence meant to any of the young ladies envolved.

If i could get my head round this A,B,C thing then i could probably help i've never been good at Algebra lol. I'll read it tommorow when i'm more awake

He doesnt care, he's just a good friend, I'd be a backup date for a friend as well.
As I already said, he has his own farewell later where he get to choose his own date, iirc A is his backup for that.
Nothing to do with second fiddle, I think he prefers to be her backup becus he doesnt want want to go to an afterparty and she wants to
I'm leaving till next weekend I'm tired of matricfarewells
a girl just dropped one of my friends after she promised to go with him, that gets me angry, thats plain mean I'll just go break sth now

The best solution is to extracate yourself from the whole thing and leave all parties to themselves. Hate to see you get so upset about it.

I'm not upset about the ABCD case thats got nothing to do with me, A is just one of my best friends hence the defence on her part
I'm upset/very angry about another one, one of my guy friends getting dumped
and some one else who i really wanted to come whos not coming

personly at my school guys just do that to make themselves look like pimps and also look like they get all the girls. this is ofcorse what ive over heard and been told at my school, and also what i belive most guys do.

also if you people dont mind me asking, what should i do? my girlfriend i havent see for 3-4 weeks, ive called her since thursday (evey other day) and no one answers. she siad she was going on an vacation but should be back today. but in an diffrent website i noticed that she posted last night. she and i been dateing for an month and half, but shes very shy and also iam her 1st bf and shes 17 also. but i dont know what to think or do, any ideas?