I have an easier answer.
Settle it on the paintball field
Noone gets hurt, and you can still 'accidentally' overshoot someone

Cowardice? how about you, your friend, and your friend's friend ganging up on one guy? that's way more cowardice to me.

hmm...tell the friend to tell his friend to dump the girl. She cheated on her bf so she'll cheat on him.
As for the fight. Has the friend of the friend explained to the bf that he didnt know that the girl had a bf?
Sure hemight not believe him, but who knows. Otherwise....erm I dont know..go with but dont join the fight?
That way if they gang up on the friend of the friend you can help. But if only the bf is there tell your friend not to join the fight.
Something like that?

First off the guy I might fight has like 6 friends so me helping isn't cowardous, it's keeping my friend from dying and I think I'll take Sycho Warriors advice

Is that a good thing?

There shouldn't be any friends of anyone who get involved. Fighting is wrong, and it won't solve a thing - afterwards there maybe some broken noses, cracked jaws, and hurt pride. However, the fact will still remain that she cheated on her boyfriend. Thats it.

If you 'go along' to the fight, you should only speak up to stop anyone becoming involved. Its a fight between the two guys, its no-one elses business and no-one elses place to stick their nose in. If he wants to fight your mates friend, then let him get on with it.

Above all - tell a flippin adult - be it your parents, his parents, her parents, your teachers or whomever you can. Even tell the guy who wants a fights parents. They may well (or will) intervene and bang some sense into everyones heads. Right now it sounds like there will be a fight with 10+ people (I assume the guy has more than just your mate as a friend, and your mate has more than just you as well?) - where alot of injury is going to come out to alot of people, for no other reason than 'helping a friend'. If that doesn't strike you as completely ridiculous - then I don't know what will!

I know you probabily don't want to take, consider, or even read my advice - but remember this bit:

After you are all covered in blood and bruises - possibly in hospital, all take a good look at each other. Then ask 'What did that acheive?'.

The best - the guy will have won - and be satisfied, and its over - you guys are in pain.

The worst - everyone is in pain, you guys win - he goes to get more mates and weapons - and does some real damage the next time (or single your two mates out in suprise and beat them to a pulp).

Where will it end huh? - because after a fight - someone will lose, and then they will want revenge for hurt pride. Start the cycle, and get some health insurance - because you will end up needing plastic surgery.

You may get seriously hurt, and all because some girl you don't know cheated on her boyfriend with some guy you don't even like. How does that sound?


Edited by - Chips on 12/11/2004 10:44:08 AM

I'm sorry I can't just ditch my friend. I am trying my best to avoid a fight but if it comes to that I can't leave my friend to get beat up. If they come with weapons then the I'll call the cops and if they can't arrive in time they can have a look at my shotgun.

Though I acklowlegde the risks, aftermath damage, and what I'm up against even if I hate this guy I won't let my friend be nearly killed alone.

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as life goes on we must confide in ourselves the energy to be self-reliant. No one will help us...

What about you trying to talk the boyfriend out of the fight?
Or trying to get the gf to tell the bf that your friends friends didnt know about him. Its the least she can do...she will not be willing to do it I guess, but its worth a try.
Or if you can't talk the bf out of a fight at least get it to only be a one on one fight..no friends involved...use his pride to get that done

it isn't worth it to expend such manpower to perserve something so intangible as pride or whatever that's involved. tell your mate to grow up. to step down. he'll be more respected that way by others.

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If they come with weapons then the I'll call the cops and if they can't arrive in time they can have a look at my shotgun.

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I would have preffered to see that you would all run like hell to anywhere safe! If none are intelligent enough to leg it *if* they turn up with weapons, then removal from the gene pool maybe a good thing. (erm - joke by the way )

The same goes if your outnumbered! You should leg it instead of being beaten senseless. Fights can be avoided entirely - I really don't understand why people would agree to meet and face off over it. What is the point? Once the lad who got jiggy with the girl found out she had a bloke - he shouldn't be willing to go fight her boyfriend over it - he should leave it all alone. If he is willing to go for a direct confrontation - then he is a fool. If he is getting people to join in for him - then they are fools.

Simply put - unless its 'after school, behind the canteen' sort of meeting for a fight - then how on earth do you think you will even be present for when he does get into a fight? If the lad is outnumbered and needs help - then he should be intelligent enough to leg it, rather than fight anyway. If he isn't intelligent enough, then life won't be too good to him!

Since you cannot garuntee you'll be there for a fight anyway, then you really should try talking some sense into your mates. If its one on one, then if the mate is losing, no-one should step in, else a fight will never be decided fairly and lead to revenge crap. See what you can do to talk to them all, but since the fight hasn't happened already, I would guess its not going to happen, or the bf is all talk and no trousers. It doesn't take a week to build up the balls to start a fight.....

Edited by - Chips on 12/12/2004 7:33:01 AM

In the US, showing up to the fight with a weapon, and the cops catch you, garentees you jail time and a record of vialet(sp) offender. Not something you want, defending a friend. Leave the gun home, no matter what, call the police ahead of time that there may be trouble at the location, at what ever time it is suppose to happen, then your bases are covered. *Shakes head at whole mess this is*

First I must thank everyone for thier time, and this whole ordeal was settled peacefully. (it sounds oddly like something out of a soap opera) Anyway my friends and I met these guys friends and we were about to fight when I just walked up and said f%&* this, you all can kill each other but I'm not gonna fight like a 2 year old. So we all calmed down and talked about it. It's finally over and it ended without blodshed. Second I wanna thank Sycho Warrior cause it seemed like he was in depth with this whole thing. Last I wanna thank all the moderators for not shutting this down for all the talk about fighting.

Good to hear that all was settled peacefully. And from what you wrote you seemed to have been the catalyst; that must feel pretty good.

FYI about sycho warrior: She is not a guy and if you ever decide to refer to her by her initials avoid capitalization at all costs. "SW" makes her angry. You won't like her when she's angry.

Well I'm just glad it was all settled peacefully

@code thanks