Amen finalday.
Viator - the Traveller

Fd I think its different for you being single and Vi being single, Vi is only 17/18 at that age it is really not so bad to be single, I'm that age as well and single and very happy
I think thats what ff whas trying to get to.
For different ages being single means different things
But Fd and Vi I know you will find the right girl eventually, u both seems like nice guys
And now you made me burn my nice cheese snack
The things I wouldnt do 4 you guys

Sorry about your cheese snack.

yeah i'll stay single for a while my last five girls turned out to be cheating air heads and to think i wasted $90 on a neckless for the last one

I think I'll have to stay with the book I'm writing for my fantasy life. A good marriage and all in it. I can dream.

well im 18 and have a gf, but i didnt go looking for one thou. one thing that helped me get her was being a friend, (even if it was an 8 year friendship, i know it took me that long to pick up the hints she was dropping!).

but i would focus on school if u r still at school, they can be serriously distracting at times.

The best way to look at it is a narcissistic approach, i.e. she didn't know what she lost - the worse for her. Always worked for me and never hurt my self-esteem. Viator, my friend is 32, no gf, and he feels fine. There are more chicks than men, so your chances are better. 7 refusals, huh? Well, you might as well get another 17 till you find the right stuff... erm, I mean, the right one. Just make sure you don't spend too much time to find out the prospects. Besides, being in love with sb is not the same as to love sb - the former will pass soon and you'll forget this whole thing with no further consequences. In the meantime, you could try short-term relationships to keep you busy - you have no committments, right? When you meet a chick, let her do all the talking, you just agree and make an interested face - she'll come over to your bedroom in no time

An idea came to my head and is now desperately searching for brain

You're only too young to have a serious relationship with a gf if the reason why you want one is because everyone else has one or because you just want to get it on.

Having said that, though, 17 to me seems a tad early on getting all serious.

Not sure what "being single" has to do with anything unless you mean that without a gf, you have no one to talk to and share experiences with?

Just a word of friendly advice: Don't rush it!!! I met my wife when I was 21, and that last thing I wanted was a serious relationship (just got out of a bad 3 year one). WHat you may think you want when you're 17 or 18 is quite a bit different then what you may want/need when you get older. I've been married 8 years, and learn to appreciate my wife more every day. We've been through many difficult times, and the type of person I though I wanted 12 years ago wouldn't have made it through them with me. Funny...when you stop looking, what you need smacks you in the forehead!

Enjoy being young and <hopefully> carefree! These days flee quickly!

you hit the nail on the head with that last one, indy.

i just hate being alone in this world. sure i have friends i can trust, but i just hate not being able to share some of the more softer emotions with people.
i dont want a really serious relationship with someone, i just want someone to love. other than platonic relationships with people.
-:-
Vi

Edited by - Viator on 6/16/2004 5:08:25 AM

Viator
It takes a serious relationship to be able to share those emotions, problems, or simply to love. Why? Because all this is a two way street with both doing it. Something I want sooo much. But, will in all probability, never have.

Edited by - Finalday on 6/16/2004 5:13:07 AM

I know this sounds cliche but...... you can love someone very much without sex ever being introduced to the relationship. I only mention this because you have dismissed platonic relationships as unsatisfactory.

Platonic relationships, to me, mean all the sharing and emotional intimacy you want but no sex.

Throw in the sex and you have a very serious relationship going on. Once you have a really serious relationship going on, life gets REALLY complicated.

You sure you want that

I totally agree with Indy, I have a few platonic relationships that have been my saving grace over the past few years when I could'nt land a girl for love nor money. They give you all the things you get out of a normal relationship but minus the sex, which can be satisfied by other methods if you get my drift.

dont feel bad, think i just crashed mine because she doesnt want an touchy feely relationship, also iam her 1st boyfriend because everyone at school seems to make fun of her. but all i did was tell her i love her before we said bye and hung up and weve only been dateing for an week an ahalf.

Edited by - warrior17 on 6/16/2004 10:00:16 PM