I generaly avoid the person till I am emotionaly strong enough to manage.

Life: No one gets out alive.

I am afraid if I do that we won't really be friends anymore, and I can't deal with that either.

"Twice and Twice shall he be marked,
twice to live and twice to die.
Once the heron, to set his path.
Twice the heron, to name him
true.
Once the Dragon, for remembrance lost.
Twice the Dragon, for the price he must pay."

@GE: That's the main reason why I got -drunk last night... No known solutions here, for now. I'm working on it, and I'll inform you if I manage to come up with something to 'ease the pain'... Until then... I know exactly how you feel (plus I'm a bit ahead of you - 6 or so months), and I fully sympathize with you. I wish I could help... both of us...

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I find comfort in other peoples' understanding... Maybe you don't, but check these out, you'll find yourself in a few.( except that they're "written in female gender" ) All albums are great, read them all. If able, hear them - they strike hard, but it's a sweet pain.


Careful what you wish... You might just get it.

Edited by - Chetnik on 19-10-2003 00:41:46

ah crap buddy, the whole "friendship barrier should NOT be crossed" basically, DONT see her for AGES, your pretty damn close now, so if you back off LOADS she and you will drift appart, meaning you can come in and try again

-arcon
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"Never offend people with style when you can offend them with substance." --Sam Brown

listen to arcon.
he helped me when i got rejected
"now don't get depressed now Chucky. it will only make you say dumb things and lardy-dar song titles" -Arcon

there are three ways we can describe the Starlancer forums if TLR was a town.....
they are either the ghettos, the old folk homes, or the graveyard

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It's funny how they wanna be friends right after they rip your guts out.

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I've been there done that, but if you wanna be friends it's a bloody hard task and not one that should be entered into lightly. Your going to have to watch her go through boyfriends while you sit on the sidelines and it's absolutely gutwrenching.

Let's put it this way, If you want her as just a friend, then that's fine. However if you want her as a friend cause your hoping she might change her mind about you later on down the track then forget it. It's far to damaging to your self-esteem and emotional stability to put yourself through that torture test.

Ah, ive gotten that line a few times already :\ Once I had to get it from a girl 3 times before it actually sunk in.

Just back away from the girl and stop talking to her. And try to find other things to do that will occupy your thoughts like playing games or hanging out with friends. Then after a while youll think less and less of her. Though, IMHO, youll never actually lose all your feelings, you will lose enough that you can back away and free yourself from the pain.

Who says guys aren't sensitive?

Ummm,.... Did I just ask that? Oops.

Man, all your plights suck. I haven't had that gutwrenching feeling yet, but I imagine I'll be having it soon .

GE

You should forget about her as soon as possible, belive me when I tell you this that "pain" can literaly destroy you over time, and we would not be happy to see you jumping from 31st floor...

So just forget about her and continue with your life, these are some things that happen often through persons life and those people should not allow them selfs to be devastated over something like this, just live on


Leonhart
General of a clan
Leader of UltraLeon Works


Edited by - leonhart on 19-10-2003 05:44:38

Forgetting about her is rather extream. My third gf and I broke up roughly 2 years ago. And we're great friends.

My most recent ex and I are still friends.

One thing I decided along time ago, if the you desire a person, even if you can't be romantic with them, you still have feelings for them. Don't let the person go, because they are special to you, and who knows what doors they can open for you.

Life: No one gets out alive.

seems like its bad week for TLRers. everyone seems to be suffering. hope the sun will shine soon.. but personally i like the clouds. makes my room cooler. that doesn't mean i like to live thru a 103F fever all my life.

i'm probably emotionally extremely thick beacuse i can't see myself going out with the girl i like. maybe i can but nothing further. its a sad life i lead. you guys lead the bright ones.

naw it happened to me a month ago or so
wierd tho. after she broke up with her other boyfriend she went to another
then i decided to back down.
just for the simple reason that she might be a bigints with a S and ends with a T
and its 4 letters long

there are three ways we can describe the Starlancer forums if TLR was a town.....
they are either the ghettos, the old folk homes, or the graveyard

believe me they like the attention but she aint interested, just being friends is a way for her to blow u out with little or no guilt while she moves on to someone else. having said that if all u want is to get in her knickers then u can do that and be "friends" she just doesnt want to be seen to be "with" u. back off then move in again later for a no-commitment eveneing of fun, in the meantime find someone else.


..you think you're done with the past, but the past isn't done with you..

YAY! I got a date in....1 HOUR!!!! :O