Griff, depart from your bubble. TLR is not the only place to meet people (Yes im talking about the servers too). Though its a good place!
3ncryptabl3_lick, Few things imported about server:
1. Ping, If your ping above 300 it will be pretty nasty to play
2. Population, Slots open AND slots used.
3. Stability, Most of the reasonable servers keep their server pretty stable.
Open server list, wait till fully loaded and arrange by ping. Now every server that have 30+ slots is good, but we also want to play with others so if this server is full or nearly full then this server is just for you.
After a while your not that n00b to MP try to join some clan. Clan wars are the only thing that really keeps FL alive.
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Moby