Social life/girlfriend question

Fri Nov 19, 2004 6:22 pm by Orillion.

Hey, everyone.
You know me, im your average computer geek who... plays computer all the day. Computer... and so on. Until now. Just two months ago i discovered how fun it can be to talk to someone, not MSN, but acctually talking. I'm friend with this girl in school, won't tell ya' any names, and we talk. Every week we go out and walk for 6 - 7 hours and talk. It can be anything from what you got on the last test in school to what tomatoes are acctually the best. Doesn't matter. But the real problem is, i really like this girl. I'd really like to ask her if she'd like to be like... my girlfriend but i don't know... what if she say "no"? I feel that really will spoil our current friendship. What should i do?

(PS: If anyone make fun of this i'll take this down. I've never felt like this before so you're talking to a noob on the social life front.)

Fri Nov 19, 2004 7:37 pm by Neo_Kuja

Better to be up-front with her, and if she says "No", then accept she wasn't the girl for you .....

Fri Nov 19, 2004 7:41 pm by Orillion.

Yeah, that's kinda what im thinking to... altough I'm going to wait for some months before i ask her, at least

Thanks for the post anyhow

Fri Nov 19, 2004 7:46 pm by ww2jacob

6-7 hour walks?
I'd say that's pretty romantic as it is...
My recommendation would be to just ask her. Wait as long as you like, but remember, the longer you wait, the more likely the chances of some other guy coming along and taking her for himself.

Fri Nov 19, 2004 7:53 pm by Orillion.

Yeah, well...
One of my other friends (a guy

) usually walks up betwen us two and i get the feeling he doesn't like to see us two talk

It's pretty annoying but i've started to tell him that and he says im in the way... Ah, well... maybe i could acctually talk to him... and her

Edited by - Orillion dot Net on 11/19/2004 7:54:02 PM

Fri Nov 19, 2004 10:20 pm by J Dawg

Long walks (be them on a beach or not) are always a great place to start. Sounds like you've got a leg up on the competition, but don't wait to long. Its been many a time that i've smacked myeself for standing idly by and watching someone else move in. It may sound like an odd or primitive analogy, but you're still out on the hunt... The girl will choose who she wants to be with. Just make sure you're the one ;-)

Also remember- the longer you wait the better your chance for a platonic friendship, which may or may not be what you want. I almost find I can get along with others better than my gf sometimes. Emerson once said "Is not marriage an open question, when it is alleged, from the beginning of the world, that such as are in the institution wish to get out, and such as are out wish to get in?"

Edited by - J Dawg on 11/19/2004 10:24:28 PM

Sat Nov 20, 2004 12:45 am by Megistos

You seem to portray her as a fairly nice girl...I doubt she'd go off you totally for asking. I mean, the worst she can do is say no. Then you're just back to where you are now. In all the similar situations like this that I've ever seen, I've never seen the girl go stomping off just for being asked.

Sat Nov 20, 2004 1:07 am by Codename

Darkstone is right. If she's a truly good person she'll be no more or less than honest and it shouldn't have any sort of permanent impact on your relationship if she says no. There may be a few awkward silences but you'll learn to laugh at them in time.

Sat Nov 20, 2004 3:04 am by bret bretonian

I'm only talking from experience here, i don't know this girl, but if you regard her very highly as a friend, don't do anything. It COULD cause a problem if she does not feel the same way, it did me. But like i said thats my experience.

If you honestly think it will not get in the way of your friendship, then it could cause more harm than good by keeping your feelings locked away and you should mention something.

It sounds to me as if this other male really likes her to. If he is more confident than you are, i suggest you move quickly before he does something. I would also suggest you keep your feelings about her from him, unless you have already told him.

Sat Nov 20, 2004 3:30 am by Orillion.

@bret: No, i've never talked to him about this because i dunno if that will make him do the move instead. Altough i'm pretty sure he've already been noticing our friendship... Going to think about this for some <a href="http://www.ntsearch.com/search.php?q=time&v=56">time, maybe just this weekend or something.

Thanks a lot, everyone who took their time.

Edit:

@DS: She isn't nice. She's the most wondeful person i've ever met

Edited by - Orillion dot Net on 11/20/2004 5:26:55 AM

Sat Nov 20, 2004 6:37 am by kimk

go for it mate, sounds like the baddies is after the girl and you have to save the day

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