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I''m going to take a long hard look at my life.....

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Post Sat Mar 06, 2004 12:06 am

I''m going to take a long hard look at my life.....

most of you had heard my problems but now i really dont feel well. whenever i try to make new friends i always fall short. i alwyas lack the capability to make friends. most of all, i try to fit in with other group but i still end up on the outside looking in.

Wolfy when he's happy...........................wolfy when he's mad

Post Sat Mar 06, 2004 12:52 am

Making friends is one of the most hardest things to do in life, take it from me, im a 15 year old computer geek with a line of thought like a 40 year old with a PhD and the vocabulary of a 1920'ser!
the best thing to do, ive heard is to find someone like yourself (that is, lonely, singled out, shy) and approach them with a line like: you ok there? look like u could use some company, petter suited for a female obviously, the worst thing that could happen is that they will ignore you or outright tell you they dont like you.
The worst thing you can do in your situation is give up, then people will think u dont want friends, and im sure u dont want that.
Just be yourself, if your what others wnt u to be, ur just giving them what they want, and you wont be able to keep it up for long, sooner or later, ul slip, and things will be worse than f they had simply excluded u for being yourself.
Dont worry, even if you dont find someone, good old TLR is still here, ill even jerry rig a neural interface so you can be on here non-stop!
Hope this helps!

Ur good friend, and noble companion

Justin 'Arania' Brown

Post Sat Mar 06, 2004 1:18 am

I'm just going to say one thing, if ppl expect you to change to something they like before they want to be you friend, they're not worth it

The more I learn , the more I get to know, the more I get to know, the more I forget, so why should I learn?

Post Sat Mar 06, 2004 2:42 am

Wolfy thats what life at your age is like for almost everyone. believe me if you try to fit in you'll feel worse. make your own way. in a few years you wont feel like that anymore anyway. its just a passing phase and we ALL go through it.

Post Sat Mar 06, 2004 2:56 am

The population of the world is massive enough to guarantee enough diversity for someone who you'll get on with well to come along at some point. When that happens you'll forget all about what you said here.

"A good pun is its own reword"

Post Sat Mar 06, 2004 5:01 am

There's nothing wrong with being a Lone Wolf. Lone Wolves are the ones who have self confidence because they know who and what they are to begin with. They don't need to hang out with a group so that the group defines who and what they are without thinking for themselves.

As you get older, you're going to realize how childish many of these "group" kids will have remained because they defined themselves only by the group that they got into. And, usually, the lone wolves eventually become the cool ones.... because they've got their sh*+ together....and chicks dig that .

Post Sat Mar 06, 2004 5:10 am

what Ed said.

Post Sat Mar 06, 2004 6:43 am

@Wolfy: friends and popularity is the most important thing in the world for like the next 5/6 years to all teenagers so i wont patronise you with saying things like "dont change yourself for them" because its pretty ****ing inevitable that by the time you leave school you will have changed. The truth is that EVERYONE changes, its impossible to not change considering its the years of your life that builds you up for ever. The trick is not to change into something your not comfortable with, always be aware your being manipulated by society. I found the best way to get those introductions to friends is by talking to them in class, sow the seeds where theyre on their own. Be Senator Palpatine about it all, play it like a game, bend the guys to your will and control them like sheep (its a way to brighten up the boring bits).

When they're in lesson, especially if theyre not with the rest of their mates, then you could talk to them, joke with them across the table or something, do basic little things that get you a) noticed and b) accepted. Put most of your efforts on the kids in a period before lunch or a break. When i say, accepted, i dont mean a part of the group of friends, i mean get it so they view you on their radar as "that guy's ok". That way when you move to phase 2, it wont be such a huge step.

Phase 2 is of course the official attempt to get into the group. This works best if your friends with a guy in the group via class. There's 2 types of friends in this situation, friends you know from class who you dont really see anywhere else, and friends that you do. By working on one or two you then maybe can talk to them as you're leaving lesson. One thing leads to another, you can then maybe propose to go get something to eat. Now normally, most groups of friends religiously eat lunch together so its most likely that your new found ally/contact (be cool and call them all assets when you're making plans) will be hankering to go eat with his mates and there's 3 possible plans of action: he will blow you off and go over with them, he will blow THEM off and eat with you, or he will bring you with him to eat with them. Done at least 3 or 4 times it'll become normal to EVERYONE to see you about and you can move on to phase 3. Importantly, remember when you are at lunch to talk to everyone else. Observe the way the conversations go at the table, the types of jokes told, the kids who are always the butts of the harmless jokes, the obvious leaders and the people you should be better friends with etc. These dinner missions are the most dangerous because you are totally unarmed if you havent succesfully plyed the seeds in phase 1 it could go badly. You want it to go so they notice you (so join in as much conversation/jokes/activities as possible but dont ever do anythign youre not comfortable with, it could be a trap) and sorta like you.

Phase 3 is the easiest becase you are known as a friend of a friend to them, you're in the outer circle of the group and thats the coldest place to be so phase 3 is just becoming a familliar face in the group, slowly weening yourself away from using your asset to get you in and use some initiative and make headway. By the end you should be a fully accepted member of the inner circle and all it cost you was your spare time.

Post Sat Mar 06, 2004 6:43 am

Like I said in some other thread late last night "All you get in life is pain, you have to learn to enjoy it."

All of the "geeky" "lone wolves" at my school have grouped together and we kind of have our own popular people and junk like that. We have a different society from the mainstream. All I have to say is find some people like you and then break the ice by asking them things like "Do you know how to do this math?" or other things.

This has been another SpamSightful post by Eh_Steve.
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Post Sat Mar 06, 2004 6:55 am

I would give advice but I can't really. I'm not like any of you, I however do have thousands of friends who I have never met who share exactly the same things as me.

Wolfy, I'm guessing by your posting you might have a bit of an attitude IRL, try working with it.

-~-~-~-~
There is no Silicon Heaven! But where do all the calculators go ?

You could no more evade my wrath... than you could your own shadow!

Post Sat Mar 06, 2004 7:00 am

And Wolfy, sure you have friends... us!

This has been another SpamSightful post by Eh_Steve.
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Post Sat Mar 06, 2004 7:10 am

Wolfy, forgive the old school idea, but to get a freind, you have to be a friend. In other words, don't try to go aroung joining groups. When you meet someone., just be nice to them and through school, play, work an oportunity will open up to help them in some way and a freindship can have an oportunity to form. Give it time, and you may just find a best friend too.

For the time being, to echo others here, you have us for friends

Finalday

Habaq Mot / Aspazomai Thanatos / Capere Obitus... /Keith Green\ (1953-1983)

Post Sat Mar 06, 2004 7:42 am

except ff who wants to eat you.

Post Sat Mar 06, 2004 9:02 am

What does wolf taste like anyway? I wonder. Maybe I could go ask a Korean, it might taste like dog.

Post Sat Mar 06, 2004 9:10 am

my queue?
wolves? well tehy aren't that common in korea, but i'd imagine they taste like dogs, indeed. you might try china. they put everything under the sun on tehir plates. (through holes in the middle of the table for money brains). or indonesia.

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